A Recovery Blog
This blog is about my continuing recovery from severe mental illness. I celebrate this recovery by continuing to write, by sharing my music and artwork and by exploring Buddhist ideas and concepts. I claim that the yin/yang symbol is representative of all of us because I have found that even in the midst of acute psychosis there is still sense, method and even a kind of balance. We are more resilient than we think. We can cross beyond the edge of the sane world and return to tell the tale. A deeper kind of balance takes hold when we get honest, when we reach out for help, when we tell our stories.
Monday, October 26, 2009
Monday, October 19, 2009
I had to take in three more kittens this past week. They are about a month old and I can't keep them. I will take care of them till they are old enough to adopt and then I'm just going to have to find homes for them. The bigger problem is that there is a fertile wild female cat outside and at least one fully endowed male out there too and there will be more and more litters of kittens. It's so frustrating, but I don't know what to do. I called the SPCA, but they have over 100 cats that need homes. And this is precisely why, if you let your cats outside, you must have them neutered. It's just cruel having litter after litter left outside to fend for themselves. Right now, all I can do is take it day by day and try not to worry about the future.
Because the kittens are so small, I have to keep them in a kennel and feed them every four hours, but not through the night. I let them out of the kennel to feed them and then I also let them out when I'm not feeding them, just to give them some extra space. So I've been adjusting to the new schedule once again. Maybe in a week I can let them loose in a back room, the room that my first group of kittens stayed in till I let them out into the rest of the house.
So the kittens are beautiful and cute, but it's still a bit of a pain in the butt. I haven't been able to do the Buddhist practice very well because of it, but I think things will settle down soon. The online Buddhist site E-Sangha appears to have crashed and when I googled them again, there was a warning that going to their site might damage my computer. So I've stayed away from the site and began looking for new message board forums. So far I found and joined two--NewBuddhist.com and Buddhism Without Boundaries. I've been posting a bit about myself at the latter site, how I suffer from schizophrenia and how the practice of compassion has helped me work with my voices. I said I was looking for people to study Lojong with, but it turns out there are not a lot of members and they are pretty busy. Plus, I've been told that I really need a personal teacher in order to proceed properly.
I might contact a Tibetan Buddhist monastery in Ithaca, NY and see if they can give me any advice about studying Lojong and about finding a teacher. In any case, I will visit them or a center in Rochester, in the Spring when the weather has cleared up and the roads are good to drive on. Till then, I'm on my own pretty much, though I'm hoping to learn from the people at these new Buddhist forum sites. I am really enjoying watching videos on my computer now and there are quite a few Buddhist teachers to choose from. I've already watched a bunch of relatively short videos on Pema Chodron and others as well. There's a wealth of information on the internet of course, which is a bit daunting, but I have to make time to just meditate and study my books and audio recordings of Pema Chodron, The Dalai Lama, Thich Nhat Hanh, Jack Kornfield, Ram Dass, etc... Time to review the slogans and my notes. And then there's also the time spent around others while I practice. And time spent with the cats and kittens....
With any luck, this practice will take hold over the winter. I hope so. Tomorrow I go to another support group meeting. This one will be about whether we can join NAMI (National Alliance On Mental Illness) or not. While I would like to be a part of NAMI, I'm also eager to get the support group going for just those who suffer from mental illness. I have met the other four people who will be the core of the group several times now, but I still haven't really gotten to know them. So I will be patient and as long as the weather holds up, I will go to the meetings. I've written down the email address of two of the men (the other two people, a couple, don't have email) and will ask them tomorrow if it's okay to email them this week.
Though I'm back online, I have not been reconnecting with my online friends. Most of my friends are on Facebook, except for Pam, who does not like Facebook. I have only to reach out to them, but for some reason I hold back. So this week I will return to checking out their Facebook pages and reading their blogs and start to leave comments again. I also haven't been drawing or painting and I'm starting to miss it. That's a good sign that I'll return to it.
Monday, October 12, 2009
Hello Everyone. I'm back and I hope you all have been well and continue to be well. I've been offline for about a month and a half and during that time, due to the isolation that came from not having contact with others here, I nearly fell into delusional thinking. The delusion was one that is typical for many people suffering from schizophrenia, the delusion of thinking one is Jesus. I had this delusion once before early in my psychosis, during the acute stage of my illness. This time around I was not acutely ill and yet began to slip almost unconsciously into this delusion of grandeur. Luckily, I have been taping myself on a hand held recorder for nearly two years now and when I listened back to the recordings, I got a good perspective on where I was going wrong in my thinking. That and the voices flashed a bit of hell my way to remind me that I was in no position to take on the weight of the world that the real Jesus, if Jesus were to return, would have to be ready to take on. As I felt the echo of a previously experienced hell, I knew I did not want to be Jesus and returned to my previous state, much humbled and relieved.
From that point on, I began to seriously embrace a spiritual path that I have been tentatively heading towards for several years, that of Buddhism, more specifically the Tibetan Buddhist practice of mind training or Lojong. I was first introduced to this practice by the respected Tibetan Buddhist nun and teacher, Pema Chodron on a six tape audio program called Awakening Compassion: Meditation Practice For Difficult Times. I had bought this program soon after I had my last psychotic breakdown, right around the time I began taking the anti-psychotic medications in the winter of 2002. I was struck by the idea that I could treat my severe depression and even my psychosis by working with a meditation practice and study of the dharma that focused on developing and deepening compassion for myself and others. So it was around this time that I began sending metta or lovingkindness to my voices, voices which continued to call me now and again "evil". As the years went by and I continued this practice, the voices began changing their response to me. Sometimes they would say that they were evil and other times they would say they loved me and, to be honest, they continued to call me evil during times of stress.
During most of this time, I did not practice the basic sitting meditation or the lojong meditation practice called tonglen, but I did purchase four books on Lojong. These books were: Start Where You Are by Pema Chodron, Training The Mind and Cultivating Loving-Kindness by Chogyam Trungpa (Pema's main teacher), The Great Path Of Awakening by Jamgon Kongtrul (a nineteenth century master) and The Seven-Point Mind Training by B. Alan Wallace. I read Pema Chodron's book and read through parts of the other books and then put them aside. It is only within the last couple of weeks that I gathered up these books again, along with the Awakening Compassion tapes and other audiobooks by Pema Chodron and other Buddhist teachers. I have been listening, reading, taking notes, reflecting and meditating. I have also found and joined an online Buddhist community called E-Sangha which is large and active and has several sections dedicated to Tibetan Buddhism. I hope to find friends and teachers there while I apply the practice to my daily life.
The Lojong practice is structured around the study of 59 slogans or pithy statements in conjunction with a meditation practice called tonglen. Some of the slogans are very accessible and easy to memorize, like: "Be grateful to everyone." and "Always maintain only a joyful mind." Others are more obscure and need further commentary to explain like: "Always abide by the three basic principles." or "Practice the five strengths." And still others are difficult to grasp and need further reflection over time like: "Regard all dharmas as dreams." and "Examine the nature of unborn awareness." All the slogans are more easily learned by referring to the commentary of the various authors that I've mentioned along with several others I have yet to read. Once the slogans become familiar, they begin popping up at different times during the day under varying circumstances. This is not only instructional, it is fun.
A key slogan that forms the basis for Pema Chodron's teachings is: "When the world is filled with evil, transform all mishaps into the path of bodhi." In other words, this slogan is saying use all your serious problems as a spiritual path to wake you up. Instead of shutting down or acting out when things go wrong, you pause and try to extend staying open and accepting. By opening up to the pain, you stop doing the habitual thing, which is the fight or flight reaction. You sit with it and, as Pema Chodron often says, you "make friends" with your pain. From there you make the connection that there are many, many other people feeling just what you feel right in the very moment that you are feeling it. This realization cuts through a pervasive sense of isolation, a sense that you are the only one to feel this way. And so you plant and water the seeds of compassion for yourself and others. It is this compassion that begins the transformation process of healing the suffering in oneself and others. But you have to sit with your pain and gently face it first before you can make that wonderful connection to others.
There is a wonderful black and white film called The Miracle Worker starring Anne Bancroft and Patty Duke when she was a child. It came out in 1962 and was a re-creation of an acclaimed Broadway play about Helen Keller and the teacher who taught her the meaning of words through sign language. In a crucial scene towards the end of the film, the teacher, who has been painstakingly trying to get the very spoiled and resistant young Helen Keller to make the connection between the feel of the sign made into her hand and the meaning behind the sign, makes the sign for water and then thrusts the little girls hand into the water itself. Suddenly Helen understands the connection and goes on to eagerly ask her teacher the names of the many things around her. That one connection between the sign for water and the water itself opens up an entire world for a little girl who has been shut out by several serious physical handicaps. My point is that we need to make the compassionate connection that we are all in the same boat together. The lojong slogans and the meditation practice are like the sign for water made into an open and ignorant hand. They set up the conditions that allow us to make the connection to our own wounded heart and from there to make the connection to others. That's the key to positive change in the world, to the beginning of the end of the cycle of addiction, abuse and war.
I know that sounds grandiose, but I really am coming to believe that the practice of compassion for self and others is a kind of miracle. So I'm going to test it out this year. I'm going to pose the question: can the practice of compassion be an effective treatment for a person who suffers from mental illness? More specifically can the Tibetan Buddhist practice of lojong guide me into a state of health and usefulness towards others. I have found in my years of being ill, that I respond positively to a certain amount of structure. Often I would visit my parents, adapt to their positive structure and feel better, only to fall back into negative patterns on my return home. Living alone has its disadvantages. But Lojong, as a spiritual, philosophical and meditative practice seems to offer a kind of structure that I can incorporate into my daily life with the help of teachers like Pema Chodron and perhaps this new online Buddhist community E-Sangha.
But there's more to this practice than sitting alone in my house studying and meditating, as Ms. Chodron is quick to point out. I have to go out into the world and connect with people in my community. I am very fortunate right now in that there is a new mental health support group starting in a town twenty five minutes from my town. I have been to four meetings that have been acting as preparation for an official weekly (hopefully) meeting. The first two meeting were primarily about whether we could become a NAMI (National Alliance On Mental Illness) meeting, which unfortunately is a bit complicated. We do have the minimum of five people who suffer from mental illness (myself included), but we have yet to get the required intensive three day training held in Albany only, it seems, twice a year. Several people at a counseling center, which is willing to sponsor the meeting, are working towards resolving the NAMI question. At the next two meetings the director of the counseling center got almost all of us together to guide us in how to lead a support group meeting. The next meeting is in a week, but it looks as if, one way or another, this support group is going to become a reality.
So the world is opening up for me right now, but that doesn't mean that my personal pain and problems just disappear. What it means is that I become committed to sitting with my pain and working with it in order to see myself more clearly and with more compassion. As I learn and bond with myself, I can learn and bond with others. Maybe this is the year I can become effective and useful in my community. Maybe this is the year that I truly embrace my own recovery. I plan to write about my process in applying the Lojong practice to my life in this blog. Wish me luck. And please keep in touch. Remember: we're all in this together.