tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7239140084937897595.post4393337707473790491..comments2023-10-19T10:26:30.108-04:00Comments on Yin and Yang: Thoughts Before An Al-Anon MeetingUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7239140084937897595.post-9056865565200023462007-04-26T12:27:00.000-04:002007-04-26T12:27:00.000-04:00J.P., I think you're right most people don't real...J.P., I think you're right most people don't realize how cutting their sarcasm is, they just are sarcastic without thinking. So it makes sense that explaining that the sarcasm is hurtful can maybe change the other person's behavior. But the main thing, according to the Al-Anon philosophy is to change your own behavior and learn to detach, with love if possible, from other people's bad behavior. Have you ever heard the Serenity prayer? It goes like this: "God, grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can <BR/>and the Wisdom to know the difference." Try saying that to yourself the next time your partner is sarcastic to you.Wandererhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16550316119497369344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7239140084937897595.post-88659928689047328082007-04-26T05:02:00.000-04:002007-04-26T05:02:00.000-04:00Have tried sarcasim against sarcasism, keeping qui...Have tried sarcasim against sarcasism, keeping quite but have been told to try excplaining that a particular sarcasim has hurt me works better. Maybe the person being sarcastic doesn't realise the extent of the cut.<BR/><BR/>J.PAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7239140084937897595.post-89214717058917094832007-04-24T12:32:00.000-04:002007-04-24T12:32:00.000-04:00Hi J.P.,I just wanted to say thanks for all your c...Hi J.P.,<BR/><BR/>I just wanted to say thanks for all your comments, it's a pleasure to hear from you.<BR/><BR/>I learned in my Al-Anon reader that the word sarcasm comes from the Greek verb "sarcazo" and it means to tear flesh. So it's a form of verbal attack, often said without thinking. More from the reader: " I have no right to scorn anyone, since I can never know what creates the need to behave as they do....I will make an effort to blend gentleness with firmness, to add a note of harmony to my relations with others instead of tearing and destroying. I will realize that the wounds made by sarcasm are slow to heal, and may defer the longed-for improvement in my life."<BR/><BR/>It's hard to change habits but I think it's well worth it. So, set a good example for your partner by not responding when he is being sarcastic towards you. It might make him think twice the next time he wants to say something unkind to you and it could change the dynamic of your relationship towards the positive. Good luck!Wandererhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16550316119497369344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7239140084937897595.post-46628681345921689162007-04-24T07:55:00.000-04:002007-04-24T07:55:00.000-04:00That was J.P.That was J.P.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7239140084937897595.post-12735026799027717182007-04-24T07:54:00.000-04:002007-04-24T07:54:00.000-04:00Wow Kate,I have never realised the extent sarcasm ...Wow Kate,<BR/><BR/>I have never realised the extent sarcasm can cut. What a wonderful insight you have shared. I know that I am very sarcastic towards my partner and he to me. I will go back and reflect on your ideas of changing the cycle and put it into practice. This may be a break through for me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com