tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7239140084937897595.post6227986459977632085..comments2023-10-19T10:26:30.108-04:00Comments on Yin and Yang: The Ghost Of A Young Man -- Part OneUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7239140084937897595.post-41612742639134994442012-05-26T08:00:06.579-04:002012-05-26T08:00:06.579-04:00Hi Kate,
Please tell us in part II what it was th...Hi Kate,<br /><br />Please tell us in part II what it was that made you love Brenden so much. And I think it is very interesting that he confessed to you that he was insecure. I would think a psychopath would never do something that vulnerable. Did your boyfriend fake vulnerability or was it part of the charm manipulation? Or was it a redeeming quality about him? <br /><br />My husband when he was young took an Air Force psych test that said he had psychopathic qualities. The Air Force didn't explain more to my husband than this, and they could have been lying, but my husband in my experience is such a sweetie! So I'm wary of psychiatric labels, not that they lie, but that they tell incomplete truths. People can be so complex and contradictory. My husband probably has it in him to be a criminal, but he has so much more to balance and direct him that this is not the path he follows. In fact I know he believes that putting out good into the universe, in small acts, will come back to you and is essential code of conduct to follow. He may not have believed in Karma when he was young, but he certainly does now. <br /><br />And I think you can mature out of psychiatric labels. Can you heal from psychopathy? I know in an early hospitalization I was tested as borderline personality, but then years later given the same test it disappeared. When I asked why, the tester said that I had matured out of it. Also in that early test I was told that I had "little antennas that seek out men who will hurt me"- yet years later I am married to a man who only supports and loves me unconditionally. So I had better sense ultimately than what my test predicted.<br /><br />Are you going to tell us in Part II how you met Brenden and how long you stayed with him? You might have already done this in your blog in earlier years but you do have new readers such as me. I am curious too, what makes you go back to a man who gives you a black eye? Did he demonstrate a level of regret that made you trust and forgive?<br /><br />My husband's second wife was an alcoholic too and abused him. It is hard to hear the stories of her abuse because it is hard to understand why he didn't just walk away. I think there is a mystery about abuse and why it is allowed to continue. In your relationship, was it a gradual occurrence, with no warning signs at the beginning? Or were there signs that you chose to ignore?<br /><br />One last thought - do you think a total psychopath could take his own life? Wouldn't a relentless ruling ego prevent that from happening? I think in suicide there is a lot of self pity.<br /><br />All my love,<br />KarenKaren May Sorensenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14436905322393073250noreply@blogger.com