Worldly success is not a measure of how emotionally or intellectually mature we are. Those of us who suffer from chronic or acute mental illness must not assume that we are not as rich in inner resources as someone who has reached a position of authority. Inversely, it is just as important for those in positions of authority to not assume that their achievements mean that there is no inner work to be done.
The proper use of power is wonderful; it is the yang element in full bloom. It gets good things accomplished. It is strong and firm, yet balanced and just. It allows for the open flow of communication. The improper use of power begins to erode the strong foundations of good intent. That's where the real trouble begins, deep inside of us, in our hearts and minds. Even before one takes any negative action, there is a shift away from the open mind of pure power towards the closed mind of tainted power. This takes the form of anger, resentment, jealousy or just worry and insecurity.
In Buddhist terms this shift is an example of the preoccupation of "small mind." This is our ordinary, discursive mind, also called grasping mind or monkey mind. This is the place of ego which feeds the illusion that one's Self is solid, central, powerful and real. This is the place where all of us fall into delusion, regardless of our history of mental illness or our various levels of external success. All of us share in the common humanity of having egos. The point is not to get rid of the ego, but to get to know it, understand it, befriend it.
Pema Chodron has said that ego comes down to "a slight misunderstanding of the true state of reality" that can lead into interpersonal conflicts, even wars. This misunderstanding divides us from each other. If we were to see clearly, we would see that we are all made of the same stuff, and beyond that, we are all interconnected. Egos put us in the dualistic mindset of "good" and "bad". Egos set up hierarchies like the caste system from the Brahmin to the Untouchables. This is the core of the misunderstanding, the erroneous distinction that serves to keep us each to our own country or neighborhood or group.
I have written a little bit about the importance of building bridges between people of conflicting views. If we can't do it in our daily lives with the people we meet, how can we hope to overcome global conflicts? That's some of the power I see in taking a Buddhist perspective; it only works individual by individual, from inside out. The more of us that take small stands here and there, the more of that good power, that Buddha Nature, gets spread around and the deeper the roots go. It may take a while to see the fruition, but, with patience, I believe we shall.
Buddhist call Buddha Nature "big mind" or natural mind, wisdom mind. It's the place of inspiration and insight. It's the place where we can let go of our ego trip. Small mind wants to "fix" situations and people; it is all caught up in itself. Big mind lets go of the desires to control. It goes with the flow of ever changing times and is, as Pema Chodron has often said, comfortable with uncertainty and "the fundamental ambiguity of being human."
Most of us stay somewhat stuck in small mind, but never permanently; there are always windows of opportunity, times of inspiration or insight. It is up to us to recognize the difference between being all caught up and being in harmony with our surroundings and other people. The first step is just to see it without doing anything about it. Just look at yourself as you are and sit with it. Learn to sit with the discomfort of realizing that you are closed off and stuck. It is learning to accept yourself and others in the present that allows you to make the transition into big mind with its broad and balanced perspective. Then you can relax with the uncertainty of things without needing to grasp onto anything to try and "fix" it. Then you can accept even the people that cause you conflict.
I got caught up in some small mind thinking this past week, but then I realized that I was hurting myself and I opened up, let go into the gradual cultivation of lovingkindness for myself and my old friend. To be compassionate and tolerant is the proper place for me and her and all of you. Outer appearances can be deceptive and inner essence can be obscured. The only way back to clarity is by letting go of superficial judgments and, let's face it, a lot of our judgments are superficial, especially when we measure people and situations based on success or failure. It's not the judgments that hold us together, it's the purity of our hearts to forgive and be forgiven. It's love. What would the world be like without love? Love is wise, hate is foolish. Why do so many people proclaim that hate is wise and love is foolish? It's a misguided, self protective measure that only escalates one's personal insecurity.
Bonds formed when we were young go deep, whether we like it or not. But the depth of the bond is like pure, fresh water from a well. It can revitalize and sustain us through hard times and easy times, but we have to go to the well and drink; it won't come to us. My heart is open and receptive despite the uncertainty. I drink from the well and hope others will, too.
A Recovery Blog
This blog is about my continuing recovery from severe mental illness. I celebrate this recovery by continuing to write, by sharing my music and artwork and by exploring Buddhist ideas and concepts. I claim that the yin/yang symbol is representative of all of us because I have found that even in the midst of acute psychosis there is still sense, method and even a kind of balance. We are more resilient than we think. We can cross beyond the edge of the sane world and return to tell the tale. A deeper kind of balance takes hold when we get honest, when we reach out for help, when we tell our stories.